Quarantine Couples Connection

Hey Loves!

What week is this? I honestly have no idea. I do know that I am refocused, again, and trying my best to not look back and regret how I spent this time. I got a good groove of not rushing and re-establishing a base line of busy with the kids but quality couple-time was lacking! In short, before the #stayhome orders and pandemic life, the time my husband and I spent together and connected, whether it was 20 minuets or 2 hours, we didn’t have kids around we were rarely in our house. You see the problem?

Enter re-adjustments and more readjustments, friends.

Here is what had to happen.

1, Talk It Out: That’s right, peeps. Even after you’ve been in the same dwelling all day for a few months, you’ve collapsed asleep next to each other only to do the same thing the next day and the next. Now, you have to make time (which sounds crazy given our current state) and have a good ‘ole chat session. Discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly. Note, I said discuss not go for each other’s throats, Mortal Kombat style. Next, don’t stop at discussion, you’ve got to make a tangible action plan so each party has responsibilities and you all feel heard. Got it? Great.

2. Make A Plan: Legit, y’all. Plan dates, times, activities, food, etc. Don’t let a stone go unturned. I would advise one to maybe not go crazy and try everything they see on the interwebs… this may, or may not, be from personal experience.

Now to ideas!

1. Virtual Double Date: That’s right! Contact your fav couple friends, select a date and time, and connect via google hangout or the Houseparty app! You all can do a movie night, guided painting via YouTube, game night (heads up, anyone?), dinner, or just a solid Kiki!
2. Dessert and Drinks: I mean, do I need to explain here? Get simple or get fancy. Order in or make it at-home. There are so many possibilities here, it is not even funny.
3. Make a “Pandemic Is Over” Bucket List: I know every state is different but maybe there is something you are definitely doing when it safe. Make it a date to make a list! Take it up a notch by doing the research and planning as much as you can so you can set the plans in motion as soon as it is safe.
4. Movie Night: I know, the world has been “Nextflix and Chilling” for some years now but let’s elevate it! Rent a movie from various web retailers, make the popcorn of your dreams, grab all the movie snacks, and enjoy! The added plus is this can be way less expensive than actually going to the movies!
5. Loom Journals: This is new to us and I am already in love. The Loom Couples Connection Journal allows each person to answer prompts, some related to your relationship and some not so much, once a week. It is designed by “relationship experts” with a goal to get couples connecting while making an “heirLOOM”. Get it? If this isn’t exactly your style, you can grab a blank journal and simply write love letters back and forth!
6. Get Active: Head out on a hike, a walk, or do a workout together. This a great time to catch up and encourage each other.

Hope this helps y’all connect and come out this stronger!

Love you. And you. Mean it.